Mentoring

Hi Friends.

I have had quite a few enquiries over the last year or so in regards to mentoring, so I wanted to quickly write up a blog post about it.

Firstly, I'm more than happy to help anyone break into the industry, and I mean anyone. This is the type of job that anyone can do. Clients want all kinds of people; there is a demand for all genders, nationalities, weight, height, looks, age (legal age and above), tattoos and other body mods, long hair, shaved heads, it doesn't matter. There are clients who want lots of make up, goths, no makeup, country girls, grannies, the list goes on and I'm sure you get the idea. 

In this industry, you have the ability to choose who you want to be, and who you want to market for. We also have the ability to "re-brand" that is, change our names, who we are, what we look like, our rates and what services we offer. If you start off marketing yourself as a high end call girl, but decide it's not for you and you want to become more true to your authentic self, you absolutely can. And it's true for vice versa, if you start out as the cute girl next door but desire the glitz and glam of the high end escort, you can change your marketing and go for it. 

What works for others might not work for you and it's important for your mental health to stick to what you want for your own business, including only offering services that you're comfortable enough doing. I say 'comfortable enough' because there's always going to be days that you're just not up for XYZ. Don't fall into the trap of seeing what others are offering and force yourself to do it because it's what you think you should do for your business. It's not worth the mental and emotional strain and potential burn out.

So, in terms of mentoring, I'm always happy to have an honest chat about my experience in this industry over the last 13 odd years. I'm not sure I like the term 'mentoring' because it sounds like ongoing paid business advice, and that's not really something I do. I feel I lean more into peer support and advice.

If you're just starting out in the industry, at the 'just thinking about it' stage, or have been doing it for a while but you're hitting road blocks or simply need help or advice about one particular thing - reach out. 

I can give you ideas about where and how to advertise, create a profile or website, we can brainstorm services and rates and how you want to market yourself. Of course, I'm not going to do the work for you, but I know how isolating this industry can be and I am here to help you navigate your way and get you started.

We can discuss screening, whether you want to provide incalls or outcalls, how you can manage time, travel and accommodation, different ways to accept payments, your availability, personal safety and keeping your money safe.

I can offer advice about where to find more peer support, sex work organisations and sex work friendly businesses and services. 

I can also help you to understand legalities in the industry, how to perform health checks, talk about safe sex, how to work when you have your period and what you can do if something goes wrong.

I am big on community and connection and I think it's really important to have connection while doing sex work. That's not to say you need to have heaps of sex worker friends, but rather, having people who you can talk to openly and honestly about your work. Sex work can be very isolating, so keep up contact with your family and friends who know what you do. If you're in a situation where you can't be honest about your work with family and friends, there are sex workers and organisations who often hold meet ups where you can meet and connect with peers. You can also bitch and rant to me if you need an outlet or someone to just listen.

I don't charge a fee for mentoring. I know that there's no way I could afford to pay when I first started sex work. I couldn't even afford a new set of underwear. I've had peers tell me that the help I gave them was valuable and really helpful to get them started - it gave them a confidence boost and they felt a hundred times more able to get started or make the move they needed to make. They told me I should charge for my time. In most cases, the push to get started in sex work is a need for money - often money that people don't have. I totally get that. If you feel the need to compensate me for my time, feel free, but there is no obligation. Like I said, community and connection is important to me; knowing that you feel more at ease and less lonely starting out in the industry, and you're on your way to making bank, is what I really want to achieve. 

Please note that this is directed at full service and in person sex work. My knowledge of porn, platforms like OF and dancing are limited!

Peace out,

Ellie